black_datingDating is fun, but it can be tricky. From picking someone you are mentally stimulated by; versus the person who gets your hormones jumping. It is hard to find the one who does both. I would imagine that it would be hard to meet someone great, and not be sexually attracted to them, but what happens when the person you have just met is everything…  except good in bed?

How unfortunate it is to really invest time, and get acclimated to a person and eventually find out they can’t take you to that climax. Ok, ok. Let’s not even discuss climaxes just yet. I understand that they can be a whole different story (namely, for women). What about good sex in general. You know, passion, good feelings.. Etc. ?

If the sex is bad, how do you deal? Is it a deal breaker?

How interesting it must’ve been for our grandparents. They would fall in love, submit to each other and hope that the sex was A1. Scary!

We all know, sex is a big deal; especially, good sex! I mean, frequency is and always will be a big deal. However, the frequency won’t matter if the quality is lacklustre. Right? If the sex isn’t to your liking; cheating, going outside of your relationship, and overall resentment are way more likely. The fire must be kept up by way of passion. Most of which, comes from sexual relations between two people. Without good sex or sex in general, you’re just friends. So how do you avoid The Upset? Are there ways to find out? Unfortunately, no. It may be that the only way to truly know, is to well you know, find out. Outside of natural chemistry, you will never really be able to tell if the sex is fire… So after taking the time to get to know your person and the sex is bad… does it ruin it? Or, do you try to work with it?

In a society where sex is rampant and all too easy to get, what you can’t do, someone else will. What you dont get, someone else can give you. In order to make and keep relationships strong. Your relationship must be your one stop shop. One must feel as if they recieve all that they need within the confines of their union. So, is it smarter to try before you buy? – (for a lack of better words). What I mean is, before you get into a relationship with someone, you may want to try there performance out.

That doesn’t mean you do it in a hurry. Just know that before you get seriously into a person, how they, do what they do is very important for the long haul…